How To Talk To Your Manager About Burnout
You’re sitting at your desk, trying to write an email updating your supervisor on a big project, but you can’t seem to type anything that makes sense. Or, you can’t muster the energy to work on that report that’s due Friday, even though it’s your most important task this quarter. You feel as though you’re drowning in work, but instead of throwing you a lifeline, people just keep dropping more tasks on you.
These scenarios have become all too common for workers at every stage of their careers, and indicate a major issue: burnout.
1. What is burnout?
2. How do you know if you’re burned out?
3. How do you deal with burnout?
4. What if your manager doesn’t do anything?
What is burnout?
Burnout is widely acknowledged as an “employee crisis” that could be to blame for a slew of problems for companies, and their employees. In fact, according to a study conducted by Kronos Incorporated and Future Workplace, 95 percent of HR leaders acknowledge that burnout is significantly impacting workforce retention. Despite how prevalent burnout seems to be, many people don’t know how to identify it. In a long piece about burnout, Psychology Today defines it as “a state of chronic stress” that can lead to both physical and emotional exhaustion, as well as feelings of detachment, cynicism, and lack of accomplishment. It can be caused by an extreme workload, exorbitant overtime, and/or insufficient compensation, and it is negatively impacting the employees of businesses small and large. Additionally, the effects of burnout occur incrementally, so people often don’t recognize that they’re experiencing it until they’re already overwhelmed.
How do you know if you’re burned out?
Burnout can feel like a fog: people who suffer from it describe lowered productivity, a lack of enthusiasm, and feeling totally drained. A reader of Alison Green’s “Ask A Manager” describes her experience at a high-stress job where she feels overworked: “I’m tired all the time and grumpy. Worse, in the last couple weeks I seem to be losing the ability to think. I’ll read an email and be unable to make sense of the words, or unable to figure out what to do with it…”
Burnout can also cause more serious symptoms. According to the same Psychology Today article, these include insomnia, as well as physical issues like shortness of breath and headaches. You may also experience increased susceptibility to colds and flus if you’re burned out, and even bouts of anxiety and depression.
How do you deal with burnout?
Perhaps the worst thing about burnout is that it won’t just go away on its own over time. You have to deal with it head-on, which means having a conversation with your manager. If the prospect of telling your manager that you feel strained and detached creates a squirming ball of panic within you, that’s okay. Productivity expert Julie Morgenstern identifies part of why it’s so difficult: “In the bottom of your belly is the feeling that if you can’t handle the work, there’s someone else who can; you feel dispensable.” You feel as though, if you can’t cut it— the long hours, having to constantly check your email from home, the endless duties— you’ll lose your job to someone who can handle it all with grace.
“The natural tendency is to think, ‘I am not working hard enough, smart enough, or efficiently enough. I should be able to handle this,’” adds Morgenstern. “So you suffer in silence.” Liane Davey, cofounder of 3COze Inc., explains why you shouldn’t let this stop you from speaking up: “You overcommit because you are ambitious or you want to impress your boss, but then when you fail to deliver— or deliver work that is rushed or of poor quality— it sends a message that you are not reliable.”
Ultimately, Morgenstern says, “Bosses want their employees to speak up if there is anything that’s keeping them from performing at peak levels.” So, if you’re burned out, being honest with your manager about how you’re feeling will be better for both of you in the long run.
If going straight to your boss seems too intimidating, confide in a friend or trusted coworker about how you’re feeling. Laying out all your responsibilities and speaking to a third party about how much work you have can help you feel more confident in approaching your manager. It’s a great way to gauge whether or not your workload is truly unreasonable. Do a diagnostic: was the problem with the amount of work you were assigned, or did you take on too much? Did you get caught up trying to impress your manager, or is the problem with the amount of work structural? Your friend may even be able to help you brainstorm suggestions for lightening your workload so you’re more prepared to talk to your boss.
When you do go to your manager, be open about the fact that you’re feeling overwhelmed and ask for guidance on streamlining time-consuming tasks and prioritizing. Then, based on your “diagnostic” above, explore whether any of your tasks can be placed on the backburner, and which of your assignments can become a more collaborative effort between you and other members of your team. To keep your manager on board, make sure that these re-assignments don’t mess with the company’s objectives and deadlines -- maybe even try to frame it as a team-building exercise. Additionally, if any of your work is being reassigned to a coworker or team, you can offer to touch base with them regularly or be available to answer questions via email— essentially smoothing the transition without adding to your workload.
Finally, tell your manager if you want or need to take advantage of employee services such as paid time off. You have to recharge after burnout, so a little distance might be necessary. If such services are few and far between, it may still be worth it to take some time off without compensation— only you can determine your budget and needs, but don’t be afraid to point out to your manager to that meeting you halfway so that you can craft a solution to your burnout together will likely be best for both of you in the long run. After all, it won’t solve itself, no matter what your budget— so you truly do have to be proactive.
What if your manager doesn’t do anything?
It’s the worst-case scenario: you tell your boss that you’re being crushed by your workload, and they don’t do anything. This is tricky, but you have to advocate for yourself— whether it means reminding them that you need to take a few things off your plate, seeking help from your team members, or taking a personal day now and then just to get some space. However, if you do find that your manager won’t adjust your workload, it’s time to investigate other job options.
Burnout is clearly a huge problem in a variety of workplaces, so rest assured that you’re not alone. Chances are that your manager is familiar with it, and will be willing to find a more manageable workload for you. Take time, recharge, and banish the burnout— for the health of your body and mind, as well as your career.